To be or not to be… contd

Perfect woman

Yeah yeah I know I cud have contd in  the previous post.. but wat the heck, there’s nothing called ‘being wastefully lavish’  in e-space

Anyways.. where was i? Yeah the ‘healthy acceptance of rejection’ thing. By default each on of us likes certain things and doesn’t not like certain others. So if u’ve been unlucky enough to fall in the ‘don’t love’ category of a person who qualified in ur ‘I love’ category – Just get over it. There’s hardly anything u can do besides accepting it.

 

However human tendency is such that we do not give up. More so people tend to get even more obsessed about that particular person.

And guess what? A HUGE HUGE industry thrives on it. Other people are making money out of your inability  to accept rejection.

They include the whole beauty stylists, body sculpting, personality developing and life therapy coaches. They are all telling u what u should look like and act like so that U become desirable.

Desirable my foot!! Its like adding more layers of Fake personality to urself.

‘You’who could have been genuinely liked by some one is now SO obscured beneath preetnces that even if u DO find some one to love u – U’ll never know who exactly he/she loves!

So does this mean that you shouldn’t ever try to improve urself?

Ofcourse not. But the reason u want to improve urself should be You. You should completely love urself and accept urself the way you are. You should try to look good/ more handsome/  more dashing/ charming/ debonaire watever Bcoz YOU want to, Bcoz it makes YOU feel good – Never ever to impress some one else. The minute ur doing something for another’s sake You r not Living for ur self, u r living for someone else.

Trust me, no matter how much u manage to impress the others It will never make u happy.

There are a couple of ppl I know who badly need to learn this. It’s a pity to watch them, but who can help. God bless them!!

Anyways I seem to have written a lecture that would make Ayn Rand proud. (I can imagine her pattin my back. Poor woman she had the concept almost right .. but she took it too far)

 

So whether ‘TO BE or NOT TO BE’ You decide depending on Your likes and dislikes. You like tap-dancing more than football? Go for it!!

Do it because, as much as you love urself, u’d like to be better and bigger than you were yesterday. Never because others are making you hate the way you are now!!

Cheers!!

 

Hey there get me a drink, my throat’s parched. That was one helluva lecture.:)